How to explain COVID 19 to your keiki?

What and how to tell your children about COVID 19? Before we get started, it is important to know that each child is different in their level of comprehension about a subject. The most important thing when explaining what is going on is to keep calm. Kids from an early age look to parents to determine how they will react (Social referencing). Do you remember when your child was learning to walk and they fell. The first thin they would do, is turn to you and see your reaction. If you were smiling and saying, "It's okay, get up," they did just that. But if you had a look fo shock and fear on your face and said, "oh no! are you okay?" their response would be to start wailing. So before you approach this subject, take a few deep breathes and center yourself before you start.

1. Have a conversation with your kids. Find out what they already know. Kids are like sponges, they soak up information all around them (even if it isn't meant for them). 
2. Educate them on the facts.
   1. COVID 19 is a virus, similar but different from the flu.
   2. It can be passed through respiratory droplets.
   3. Some people could be affected and not show symptoms for a while, while others may get sick right away.
   4. The best way to stay healthy is wash your hands and practice social distancing. 
3. Comfort them and validate their feelings. Keep calm, use a soft and calming voice when explaining what is going on. Answer any of their questions and if you don't have the answers, verbalize that you will look into it. 
4. Give them a sense of control. We all feel a little helpless during this pandemic. Instead of contributing to their fears, help your kids by keeping them focused on things they can control. Teach them that washing their hands for 20 seconds (have them sing their favorite song), have them be your little helper. They can organize and take inventory of your canned goods. Be your sous chef in the kitchen. Pick out the board game you will play or the movie you will watch. 
5. Reframe the situation. How often do you get to work from home and spend 24/7 with your kids. Use this time to make new memories, spend quality time together and enjoy each other's company.